I saw this quote today and as I'm sitting in a coffee bean, in the capital city of flaw removal (Los Angeles, CA) I can't help but feel (and see) that lil miss Sara V has a point. So many of us seem so caught up in trying to "fix" ourselves- and although I'm sure I am a minor case, I am just as guilty of this as the woman across the street who clearly looks like she has serious botox addiction..
We are all chasing Aphrodite. (For men, the Vitruvian man.)That pristine, perfect, beauty-symmetrical and flawless. Of course, each of us has a different idea of what Aphrodite looks like, but one thing is for sure-she does not look like ourselves, as we currently are.
Bigger breasts, flawless skin, smaller breasts, less fat, more fat, more curves, less curves, bigger muscles, rounder bums, flatter abs... the list is endless.. We all want to change something, we all want to be better..We all want to be "perfect".
But what's the point? Aphrodite didn't exist anyway, and even if she did, it would be pointless to try to make ourselves look like her. And what is perfection, anyway? I think we need to define our OWN sense of what is perfect, for ourselves.
I'd love to have Angleina Jolie's lips, J Lo's fantastic ass, and Jen Aniston's boobs..
But all the botox in the world won't give me Angie's lips, and a even with a boob job i still won't look just like Jen-because she's her and I am me..
I don't have Jennifer Lopez's bum because I'm NOT JENNIFER LOPEZ! when I catch myself saying, "Man I wish i had J'Lo's toned tush" I catch myself and say, "Lauren, that's Jennifer's tush, you can't have it -But you do have YOUR bum, and you do know how to exercise- so guess what? Get off your bum and do some squats." I try to make my OWN bum the best bum it can be.
Why spend so much of our time trying to mold ourselves into these seemingly impossible forms? There isn't anything wrong with fixing things that bother us, cosmetic or otherwise, but today's society really seems to be going overboard.. 14 year old girls getting nose jobs, girls 11 years old saying they wish the were skinnier, models strutting the runway who literally weigh next to nothing? The stress associated with holding ourselves up to such unreasonable standards, to wanting to be someone else- is practically unbearable. People crack under the pressure. I know this, because I have.
I feel sorry for Angelina and other movie stars. They are under an unimaginable amount of pressure to be perfect-thin, flawless, photogenic...They're expected by the business, the media, and the fans to maintain their appearances, and the second they slip up, have a pimple, or gain ONE pound, they are crucified publicly. What is wrong with our society? Beauty is the be all and god help you if you have a single blemish or ounce of fat.. or some other "flaw".
But women like me, we put that pressure on ourselves. We see Photoshopped pictures in magazines, airbrushed movie stars on film, and we immediately run to the mirror, stare at our own reflection and think, "I'm just not good enough."
How far we have fallen.. Thin is in, it's get beautiful or go home. The pretty ones are put on a pedestal and all of the invalids are cast aside..
It's like living in the age of Gattaca (Science fiction fans understand this analogy)
We have to change the way we think. I want to be my own Aphrodite. I want to be the best possible person I can be, inside and out. The best version of Lauren. I have issues with my looks, and I'll do what I need to do to make myself feel comfortable, but I'm doing it for myself. I'm molding myself into my own "Perfect" mold, no one else's.