Obviously, I've grown up. .But I still catch myself sometimes being really critical of people- people I don't even know. For instance, sitting in a coffee shop (which is something I do often) and people watching, I see A LOT of people. I've caught myself, plenty of times, thinking, " Holy cow that chick needs to drop some pounds" or "what the heck is she wearing? she looks terrible." These are just thoughts and they just pop into my head and that makes me sad.. I struggled with my weight, my appearance, and while I'm at a point in my life where I don't give two shits about what ANYONE thinks of me- I still don't want to breed negativity. I don't want to think mean things of people. It's terrible. I'm still fighting off that little bully that's buried somewhere deep inside of me. It's scary to think that this behavior can become such a part of a person that it sometimes never fully goes away.
Now, I'm a good person. I know better and when I find myself thinking these things I think about how I'd like to be treated or thought about. I think about my 10 year old niece who is extremely overweight and the battles she faces. The name calling and callousness of other kids who will pick at her weaknesses.
But what about those kids who never grow out of being a bully? They have kids and guess what? Kids hear EVERYTHING. They hear you call that person fat. They hear you call someone ugly. They hear your negativity, and that negativity will EASILY become part of them as they grow older. Sometimes as adults we don't think about what we say before we say it.
So, in honor of bully awareness month, try to watch what you say, and think. Try to think of how it felt when you were made fun of. (If you were never made fun of or bullied, consider yourself extremely lucky.) And whether being made fun of bothered you or not-STILL watch what you think or say, because not everyone is as strong as you, and just because someone doesn't look/act/talk/walk like YOU think they should-doesn't warrant cruelty towards them. I will never be able to undo what was done to me, or what I did to anyone else, but I can try my best to be an example for my younger cousins, my friend's kids, and for my own kids one day. If we change the way we think and treat each other, the younger generations have a cha